Monday, March 21, 2011

Poem...




Military Wife: A Poem

Lots of moving...

Moving...

Moving......

Moving far from home...

Moving two cars, three kids and one dog...all riding with HER of course.

Moving sofas to basements because they won't go in THIS house;

Moving curtains that won't fit;Moving jobs and certifications and professional development hours.

Moving away from friends;Moving toward new friends;Moving her most important luggage: her trunk full of memories.

Often waiting...Waiting...Waiting...Waiting for housing.

Waiting for orders.Waiting for deployments.Waiting for phone calls.Waiting for reunions.Waiting for the new curtains to arrive.

Waiting for him to come home, For dinner...AGAIN!

They call her 'Military Dependent', but she knows better:

She is fiercely In-Dependent.She can balance a check book;Handle the yard work;Fix a noisy toilet;Bury the family pet...She is intimately familiar with drywall anchors and toggle bolts.She can file the taxes;Sell a house;Buy a car;Or set up a move... .....all with ONE Power of Attorney.

She welcomes neighbors that don't welcome her.She reinvents her career with every PCS;Locates a house in the desert, The Arctic, Or the deep south.And learns to call them all 'home'.She MAKES them all home.

Military Wives are somewhat hasty...

They leap into:Decorating,Leadership,Volunteering,Career alternatives,Churches,And friendships. They don't have 15 years to get to know people.Their roots are short but flexible.They plant annuals for themselves and perennials for those who come after them.

Military Wives quickly learn to value each other:They connect over coffee,Rely on the spouse network,Accept offers of friendship and favors.Record addresses in pencil...

Military Wives have a common bond:The Military Wife has a husband unlike other husbands; his commitment is unique.

He doesn't have a 'JOB'He has a 'MISSION' that he can't just decide to quit...He's on-call for his country 24/7.But for her, he's the most unreliable guy in town!

His language is foreign

TDY

PCS

OPR

SOS

ACC

BDU

ACU

BAR

CIB

TAD

And so, a Military Wife is a translator for her family and his.She is the long- distance link to keep them informed;the glue that holds them together.

A Military Wife has her moments:She wants to wring his neck;Dye his uniform pink;Refuse to move to Siberia;But she pulls herself together.Give her a few days,A travel brochure,A long hot bath,A pledge to the flag,A wedding picture,

And she goes.She packs.She moves.She follows.

Why?What for?How come?You may think it is because she has lost her mind.But actually it is because she has lost her heart.It was stolen from her by a man,Who puts duty first,Who longs to deploy,Who salutes the flag,And whose boots in the doorway remind her that as long as he is her Military Husband,She will remain his military wife.And would have it no other way.

--Author Unknown (js)

Sunday, March 13, 2011

Part 3

So the end of May may seem like a ways off to you. But umm to me it seems VERY close. I have sooo many things to prepare before Tedd leaves. I have so much that I need his help with! So already we are going through things together. Deciding what we will take with us, what we will sell, and what is trash. We have decided we will most likely start out living on base. Because of this decision we have decided to get rid of all things that are not necessary. And you know what? Its feeling REALLY good, almost freeing to get rid of useless junk :). Our house has been in complete dissaray as we start the sorting process, Don't beleive me? HA...At this very moment there are more clothes on the floor than there are in the closets, I have dishes on the floor, and I have a set of box springs in my dining room. :) Welcome to the Army! haha

One thing I did not know was that the army speaks in abbreviations. Over the past few months, all I have heard is things like: BCT, AIT, MOS, PT, MEPS, ASVAB, BAH, _W, PCS, etc. etc. etc.
I'm learning a lot thats for sure!

Please feel free to ask me questions if you have them. I would love to answer them!

Saturday, March 12, 2011

Army Part 2

Ok, so he signed. He was excited and SO proud. In that moment, our lives changed. This was by far, the single biggest decision we've made as a married couple. That was not even a full 7 days ago and things are already crazy lol.

Before I go on, there are a few things I should clear up.
1. 12 W- Construction and Masonary Specialist
2. I've literally been asked, "Why would you EVER let him do this?"- First of all, I love him. I love him SO much. I want to support him, I want him to be proud of himself, and I want him to be happy. I want him to do something he's passionate about. AND, I feel like its what God wants. God's plans don't always mirror out plans.
3. Ok we BY NO MEANS think this is going to be easy. We have never been in this situation so I can't say we can even imagine how hard it will be. We KNOW everything in the army is "written in pencil". We understand that, and are trying to trust and rely on God.

Ok...now I can go on. Tedd leaves for boot camp and then his individual job training to follow at the end of May. I will stay here through all of this. When he completes these two steps, he will have been gone for a little over 4 months. At this point we get our first "orders", and we ship to wherever he is needed for 4 years.

YES, its scary knowing I'll be alone. Yes, its a little nerve-racking not knowing where we'll be living in October. Yes, we worry that we won't be able to sell our house. Yes, we've had multiple people make very rude judgements/statements. Etc. Etc. Etc. But, God is good...ALL the time. Once again, it may not be what we have in mind, but we will get through it.

Over the last week, I've started to become not only supportive, but also excited for our new lives to begin. The next few months will be a crazy whirlwind of emotion, cleaning, purging, and saying goodbyes. But I have faith that God will take us where he wants us. :)

Friday, March 11, 2011

My Life Lately

Part I
So life has been crazy for the Miller's lately! If you know me personally you probably know that Tedd has joined the army. For many people this was crazy and out of no where. But...it wasn't out of no where, just not everyone knew about it lol. When Tedd and I were dating and engaged, I can remember him talking about how he would love to serve his country by being an active duty army member. I IMMEDIATELY shot him down. I simply stated, "I could never ever handle that. Its just not for me to be an army wife." So that was that. Tedd was understanding and life went on.


Then a few months back Tedd brought it up to me again. This time, I immediately...stopped. I didn't scream NO, or freak out. I stopped and looked at him, and asked him if he was serious. Then we decided to pray. And pray. And pray. And pray. Oh...umm..did I mention that we prayed? LOL If you know me, you know I am a stressor by nature. I am also a Major control freak. I have my idea of how things are going to happen, and when something else happens, I freak.


However, God has a funny way of throwing curve balls in life. From THE moment I started praying about this, I have had the most immense sense of PEACE I could ever imagine. I can't really truly describe this feeling. The more I prayed the more at peace I became. Does this mean it didn't/doesn't scare me to death?...of course not. But, I prayed for Tedd, and I prayed that God would lead us down the correct path, the path that would make our life serve him best.


A few months later, Tedd got laid off from his construction job (normal for the field, he always gets called back quickly). He started making visits to Fort Wayne to the army recruiter. He found a job called 12 W. -Something he really wants to do. He filled out paper work, and more paperwork...and MORE paperwork. Then one evening he went and took the army's written aptitude test which determines which jobs he's eligable for.


Would he pass? Would his score allow him to attain the job he even thought he wanted? I prayed some more. Maybe this would be the end of the "whole army thing" lol. Umm..he came home that evening knowing his score. It was not good. It was EXCELLENT. His score allowed him to have his pick of really any job he could ever want.


We discussed the possibilites, and whether we thought this was the right thing for us. God continued to work. Finally, the day came when Tedd would go to Indianapolis to MEPS (I'll de-code later lol) to have his very in depth physical and to be offered a contract. Once again I thought, well this could be the end. Many people don't pass the physical, and as much as I know about my husband...I've never inspected his feet and spine or how he looks doing "the duck walk" haha.


Anyway, he called and said he passed his phsyical. As the day drug on, I waited for another phone call about the contract. I accomplished nothing that day. When he called, I could tell right away he was dissapointed. His first words to me were, "Its all over. My job is closed until AT LEAST October, if not later." So, he came home. Over the weekend he looked to see if there were any other jobs that interested him. He found a few, so he decided to go back down Monday and see what happened.


Monday half way through the day I got a phone call at work. As he was eating lunch at their office, his recruiter had ran to him and said they had to act fast. Somehow, someone had backed out or gotten hurt or something and there was ONE opening for 12 W. And, he took it....


Stay tuned for Part II